We went to a wonderful tapas party last night with dear friends and family--more details and photos of delicious concoctions in the next post--and lay in bed this morning later than I can remember doing for years: 9am. And it was ok! We're having a fine day despite starting it out so radically differently from normal.
Remember the chilling, visceral, physiologically sapping dread that I described from driving on icy roads after our ditch-diving episode? It's very hard to talk yourself out of an emotion like fear when it's so entrenched in your body. As Phil put it, I needed to 'teach my meat' how to react to conditions and to know that it knows what to do. And so we've been loading 'my meat' up in the truck and spending some time on frozen Beluga Lake downtown, getting the feel for ice-driving in both two- and four-wheel drive; especially, getting the truck to go out of control and then (hopefully) recovering. Phil is such a trooper and a great coach: he considers the hour or two of motion sickness that he gains from this totally worthwhile.
Probably everyone knows that hitting the brakes in a spin is bad news, whether you're in two- or four-wheel drive. (Fortunately, that's never been something I've tended to do.) But I didn't realize how different the coping techniques are otherwise, depending on whether you're in two- or four-wheel drive. Four-wheel drive is so much more stable that hopefully I'd just be in it for ice-driving anyway. Countersteering is important to get out of the skid, and actually accelerating, slowly, smoothly but firmly, pulls you back into line quite readily. So, get that down and then the next day, in two-wheel drive (rear-wheel drive; it would be ok if it was front-wheel) you learn that accelerating simply accelerates the skid! We did some quite balletic pirouettes out there on that lake yesterday and turned Phil green quickly. Countersteering is really the only crucial fix in two-wheel drive, and easing off the gas (which is what I tend to do instinctively) can help too. In two-wheel drive, it's much easier to get into a skid and harder to get out of it. Fortunately, two-wheel and four-wheel drive feel and handle so differently that I think 'my meat' is learning how to respond in one mode versus the other: at this stage, I'm not too concerned that I'd mix them up in a crisis.
My body has learned a lot from these practices and I've been far less anxious driving in general. But it's irresistible to try and tease a metaphorical significance from this too: driving on thin ice and all...
How can one be metaphorically in 'four-wheel drive' on icy roads? Unfortunately, for me it often takes more forward planning than a simple shift of the stick.
Being well-fed, well-rested and generally in good working order is pretty essential. But deep, slow, full breathing is a pretty good instantaneous downshift.
It isn't too hard to balance on the tip of an iceberg....
...so long as you choose a small iceberg!
One of the hardest things for me was just to let go and allow the spin to happen. As you get used to the feel of being out of control, 'control' becomes less the issue and it becomes easier just to respond to the different forces that are being exerted on the vehicle. On the lake, a spin that would get you in the ditch on the highway does no harm, is merely an opportunity to experience flowing with the spin, and then diverting and choosing the flow of the spin.
This ice-sculpture was spinning and it took some flowing with the spin to get this photo...
So as I go through my days and find my head getting into a spin, or events taking me over and things getting out of control (and boy, it's been a hectic week!) it's been a good thing to remember that control may not be the issue and that once I get comfortable with the spin, I can have a say in choosing its direction!One last lesson of the day: I had this post almost written, and took a break to vacuum. I ran the vacuum brush over the keyboard and just like that, my post was reduced to a few nonsensical letters! So I had to start over and really? It wasn't so bad... But next time I'll save my writing and put the computer to sleep before vacuuming!
Do you have any learning experiences for driving on ice, metaphorical or literal?
Is control the key thing for you?
much love