Sunday, September 8, 2013

In the Flux

I apologize for having left things hanging in a scary place!
Since I last wrote, I have returned to Homer.
I have moved from far in the beautiful back of beyond down to town, house-sitting for dear friends, getting around temporarily without my car.
I'm not running sprints yet, but my energy does seem to be steadily increasing.
I have been harvesting what others planted.
Feeling grateful for the abundance, warding myself off from the disappointment and self pity at not having planted a whole lot myself this year.

In this intense and poignant time, giving humor its space, narrow though its berth tends to be in my psychic space--thanks always to the carrots.
I don't yet know what room or apartment, and what fellow-dwellers, will be in my life this winter (if you have the room I'm meant to live in, please let me know!) and, as with everything else right now, I interpret that it's my job to be okay with that uncertainty.

Kidneys are all about water, flux, fluidity and shifting; in the Chinese cosmology they're associated with winter, the season into which we're moving now. I suppose it might be ideal if that energy were balanced with a rock of security in my life now--of warmth, comfort and safety--but perhaps the lesson and blessing here will be to sink down and find that security and comfort in each moment that I live from boxes, packed and ready to move, each time I throw out freezer burned veggies that have moved with me three times now, each time I release my habits of buying in bulk and storing as neither appropriate to my lifestyle nor actually providing of any real comfort or safety. Each time I let go another specious tie to safety, each time I invite the universe to show me real safety. Sinking means finding depth. The water bloat from the IV that troubled me so much when I left the hospital barely able to do up my jeans dissipated in less than a week--a little flag that told me to have faith (and not freak out over engorged body). But yesterday I got stung by a bumblebee (first time for that) when working in the garden, so I have a little reminding reservoir of fluid on my right wrist. Ebb and flow.

On a good day, this makes sense! What is also there for security is the writing and translating. The writing which has gotten all serious and intent and goal-oriented and "thesis year of the MFA program" titled. How did that happen so fast? And why don't I feel any less of a novice as a writer? And now I must make time to write as never before, and yet not feel that I'm up to the ankles in time's spilled milk when I sit a whole evening and morning, as I did recently, trying to 'catch' a poem and get barely a pair of consecutive words down. My dictionary translating job is marching toward its completion, and in order to stay on track, I must translate a certain number of words each day, an intended lemma on which to close the day. As time bound and time sensitive as the MFA completion is, I somehow have to admit the space for the 'get nowhere' times, the times when the blank page stays obstinately blank, the times when the scribbles stay obstinately obtuse and uninspired.

As for this blog, I intend to continue updating, more frequently than of late but not more than three times a week. I'll be musing mostly about writerly things, I suspect, but also some on sustenance of other kinds.
Thank you for letting me share my voice.
With love.

Saturday, August 24, 2013

A Bottom--Where From Here?

There have been many beautiful and challenging and post-worthy things since I last wrote, but I haven't been present to write them down.
People talk about hitting bottom; I always say, based on my experience, there is no bottom, only bottoms, one and then another, at different times.
Right now, I'm in/on/surrounded by a bottom. And sharing what I'm sharing here may shove me down even deeper.

I'm in the hospital with acute kidney failure.

I crashed my friend's truck, who had given me so much wonderful hospitality and such shared time and visiting and general loveliness and friendship that I wished to cherish and continue--and this is my reciprocal. And I want so badly to make it right...

but I'm in the hospital with kidney failure.

and here comes of course it affects my car insurance which is still joint with Phil's, and my far-from-flawless record is impacting Phil's flawless record--
poor Phil buried in letters from the health insurance from my various hospital stays because I'm still on his health insurance too, that I haven't been able to take care of because

I'm in the hospital with kidney failure.
This is what I give to those around me. I am frightful to be around--a bad-luck curse, an evil eye.
It's like I've made a huge mess using other people's resources and equipment, and have no idea how to clean it up all on my own taking finally some responsibility.
No pity party here--I'm not asking anyone to feel sorry for me. This is what I see when I face myself.
This is what I came to right off the plane from my bright-hued residency trip literally near-comatose; this is what I see more clearly today when my brain is beginning to function more normally.

So, what does a writer girl do at such a soul-achingly deep bottom? Surely she writes, right? No, at first, she doesn't--brain still hurts too much, but more she's afraid of writing again, anything at all. I tell her, write. It's all hopelessly messed up, and I have no idea how to make it okay. But please, write. And that is what I must do.

Friday, August 9, 2013

Writing Residency and Body Image/Food

About the Residency and some frank talk about me, since it is my blog. Speaking of blog: You would have thought I'd have an effective comments system well worked out by now, especially considering what a desideratum it has long been for me. I apologize for the continued woes. WordPress did not offer what I was hoping for, and the plugin I installed hoping to solve the problem has made it worse if anything. I will work on it but please bear with me, because I'm at...

The Rainier Writing Workshop's 2013 Residency--a week of intense learning, sharing, co-teaching, interacting...basically a time when even if you're an introvert you can enjoy going out at night. Morning talks crystal sharp and pealing with laughter in informal atmosphere...
Surrounded by people who also think this (picture) is hysterically funny and also took a photo of it:
...and, most of the time, we're in intimate workshops and seminars in which the most acute of critiquing or seminar-ing is compounded with the loveliest congeniality.
There have been a few times I've felt critiquing hasn't been sharp enough from certain quarters. On the other hand, my work came up for workshop yesterday and one of the two faculty leaders expressed some very serious reservations about it, the vocabulary becoming stronger as the workshop went on. But there was no gall, neither given nor taken--this was objective, if passionate, discussion of work being taken seriously. Truthfully, though, I could feel that were it not for my meds I'd have been in pieces. But I could balance that faculty member's interpretations with many thoughtful readings from other faculty and students that gave me a more hopeful picture. Any one opinion is just one opinion. Even better: knowing that my own fragile ego might have exaggerated some parts of what I heard and minimized something positive, I checked in with one of my cohorts who had been in the same workshop. She reminded me of some very positive things the faculty member had also said and that I had not paid attention to. Somehow it's easy to ignore what you're good at and only focus on the points of criticism.

I've already met with my mentor for the thesis year. She is a phenomenal writer of both poetry and nonfiction and also happens to be a great teacher. Several conceptual aspects of my work for this year fell into place so naturally at our meeting that it felt very auspicious for what's to come. 
Oh, and we both have big hair.

An epiphany that came for me today: the traditional line people draw of "fact and/or/versus fiction" is vicious both for fiction writing (cannot reflect facts) and for creative nonfiction writing (can only be the facts). So, I propose we disband fact and fiction and allow other dichotomies to emerge.

Okay. Now to Ela, Food, and Body. Last night and this morning, small groups of lovely people, it felt fine (although my guts reminded me afterwards that it wasn't fine). I confess, the food and body thing is torture. One sad thing is how similar it has been each year, although this year may be the worst for various reasons. I need to look like I'm eating but I'm mortified if I look like I'm eating. I don't want to eat anything but I need to stay functional.
We're all self conscious in some way. So. My thighs look gigantic, my belly bloated, my chin doubled. How can I even appear in public?
My belly is a beast of unnatural and prodigious appetites.
I was warned I might have unusual cravings as my body seeks iron after recent massive blood loss. And so. I have no appetite, but I'm afraid of what I start when I start eating. And I'm craving salt, which I never usually eat or desire. One day, I snuck to the cafeteria and bought a small bag of chips, as self consciously as a teenager buying condoms for the first time. Back in my room, I shook them out onto a napkin and made three piles, so that each transgression would only be about 50 calories. I put one pile back in the foil pouch and one into an old oatmeal packet, clamped the crimped edges under a book. I ate a luxurious few of the third pile just as they were, and crumbled the rest into applesauce, to dilute the craved salt.
Most of my favorite foods don't taste good. I have a metallic taste in my mouth. If I eat, it gets worse. If I don't eat, it gets worse. 
For the group meals, the catering's awareness of gluten free and nondairy has improved exponentially. Which means fewer excuses for me not to eat, or to bring my safe foods to eat. Still, every time I let them feed me it's a scary act of surrender and I always don't feel well afterwards--there's always something that doesn't agree. On the other hand, I brought so much of my own food here, but even feeding myself a lot of the time, that heap is diminishing so imperceptibly...and I thought I'd calculated it fairly well. 
Calories counting in my head all the time, the bestial belly reprimanded all the time. Grapes taste so good now, but they do not satisfy the hunger urge and meanwhile they add and add to the calorie count. Which means, help my guts to be more roilsome and noisome than any in the history of humanity.

My question for you writers out there: what could I do to the above litany of complaints so that people would be laughing along? Or are you laughing already?

If I could just be a bee enjoying the late clover...

Monday, August 5, 2013

Fragility and Friends

Welcome to the third year of Master of Fine Arts in Creative Writing at PLU in Tacoma. Here we are, all together again. There is such a euphoria to seeing all these people again, many of them people we haven't seen in a year, although a lot of sharing goes on via Facebook.
My flight was a red-eye, so between that and my meds I was falling off my chair for the opening night readings, which killed me as both faculty readers are wonderful writers as well as great readers of their work.
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Staying in the dorm rooms, and this time we're back in the dorm of our first year, which is conveniently located half way between the places we mostly frequent. Last year it was being renovated--seems like there's always some renovation going on here--and we were in a dorm so far away from everything that you either had to sprint a lot or pack everything for the whole day.
I don't know how the students manage two to one of these rooms all year. I'm using the second bed for my wardrobe, shown above. That random scatter of clothes is quite evocative of how I'm feeling. Put together but in bits. Put together on top of something shattered. A lot of the time I'm managing to be my old excited insightful self of these residencies. But then I have to go hide for a while.
Friends, I am fragile. And buoyed and sustained by my wonderful friends in Anchorage with whom I stayed for the days before I left. They reminded me of life and life's affirmations. They shared with me the makings of good salads and the rightness of food in the belly. They took care of me.
I am fragile. The definition--true definition--of lost is as the opposite of find--. of findable, even. If you know where you last saw something, even if you never find it, it's not truly lost. Well, during the days in Anchorage, moving back and forth between people's houses, I lost my phone.My iPhone, with everything on it. At first I was in disbelief. The old Ela never lost things, let alone something as important as an iPhone. But there it was, or rather, there it wasn't. No denying that, and I lacked the very faintest notion of how I might have lost it. I remembered pulling it out to share pictures. I don't remember putting it back in its very own pocket of my vest, but the latter is such a reflex action (to avoid losing it) that I could have done so on autopilot. And it's not at that house. We looked intensely. Not a clue. But there it was--no phone, on the verge of a trip. A new iPhone was out of the question by over $600. So I'm now learning my way around an Android. I'm not especially techie and I don't want to talk about that on here because I think many of my readers also are not techie. Just that's the story. Later the same day, I became convinced I'd lost my car keys. I turned my purse inside out several times, we scoured the very short distance between my having them and not; finally Phil, who was there, scoured my purse again and there they were in the back pocket (which I hadn't checked) where I'd put them for safekeeping.
It feels a lot like how I've heard the aging process (in people's 60s/70s/80s) described...it is the aging process, just thirty years too early. I cannot trust myself. When I'm out of comfort zone, living out of car and visiting with friends for a couple nights, moving from one thing to another, I can't trust myself with the most basic of things. And I panic. I didn't with the phone, it was just too bizarre. Panic I did with the keys, though. And there's always more travel in my future. I seem to live from trip to trip.
Sorry if this sounds like a bit of a "dear diary" blog post. I just wanted to be real about fragility and how it comes to us or presents itself within us when we're not expecting it.

Friday, August 2, 2013

Explanations

Well, that was quite the irresponsible-bloggerly behavior, wasn't it! Disappearing unannounced for a month, then reappearing with a book review and scarcely a word of explanation, then disappearing again! What on earth? Partly, I haven't known what to say. Implausible as it may sound that I be at a loss for words, I've been really struggling with the question of how much to reveal on my blog; whether it's inadvisable to be as transparent here as I aim to be in real life.
So, let's try this: I'll play it a little coy on here, and if you want to know more, contact me directly and I'll share. Basically, if you're still there, dear reader, you may have guessed--my health situation had gotten very very serious, to the point that I ended up at the place of no shoelaces, and having to be there for a good long period of time. Sliding over that long period--it was intense, infuriating, full of learning, lonesome, sociable, and many other contrasts. Even more intense is getting out of there all newborn and vulnerable, and having just barely a week to get ready to go down to Tacoma for my MFA program residency, the key residency as I go into my thesis year. Settling back in just in time to go away again.
So. Lessons? Life is hard and life is precious, like this jewel of a dragonfly whom I was only able to photograph because he was dying:
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And life is funny--what's wrong with this picture??
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That was fun to be stuck behind at a traffic light.
Okay. I'm heading down to Tacoma pretty soon, and I'm feeling in love with words but a little at a loss for them. So we'll see what I manage to say. I promise my intention is to be a more dedicated blogger again (reading as well as writing, sorry guys). I've even installed some plugins and they may even stop the thousands and tens of thousand spam comments. And if I'm really good, you guys might leave me some real comments, and I might finally have an automated way to comment back! And then life will be good ;>
Another good life thing: literally best summer ever (over 30 years at least, apparently) in AK. Nice to be out of the hospital so I can be out in it before going away again. This whole blog post has been written outside and the hardest thing has been seeing the screen!

Friday, July 26, 2013

Book Review: Mary Karr's _Lit_

It's ironic, or at least self reflexive, that I should come across and read Mary Carr's Litwhich chronicles, amongst other things, a sojourn in a mental hospital, while I was in such a place myself. I'm not dodging this issue, by the way: I just need to write a review of this book while it's still fresh in my head, having read its 385 pages over two days between groups and appointments and involuntary meds-induced naps and not having access to a copy of it for reference purposes.
Given those circumstances, this isn't going to be a review like reviews I submit to literary magazines. It'll be more of a quick-and-dirty. It's important for me to be reading memoirs like this, since memoir is going to be one component of my MFA thesis on which I'm embarking, and dealing with stories around health and soul-health is an important aspect of what will be memoir'd.
Lit is plastered with rave reviews, including one from no less than Michiko Kakutani on the front cover. Given this unanimous ecstasy, I was distinctly underwhelmed. In fairness, though, without that billing I wouldn't have been disappointed. The memoir is very readable, sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, reflective enough that it isn't just a me-me-me (although of course it is that too).
I learned both some how tos and some how not tos from reading this book. Number one: Get a better editor! Of course that's always my pet peeve; how many books have I read, sympathizing and loving the book, and thinking about every three minutes "Can I be your editor and have you do this again?" Seriously, though, throughout the book the use of em dashes and commas is so erratic and often so ill advised that where it doesn't actually distort the meaning (which it does) it often made my eyes hurt. This being the case, it's not surprising that the whole panoply of pet peeves is out in force, from gerund use to comma splices; from sentence structure to sequence of tenses.The word "scrim" appears thrice--too many for such a word. I saw the word "Ziploc" spelled three different ways; the name "Spencer" spelled differently twice in as many lines.
The latter leads me to the biggest how not to I learned from reading this. Karr uses present tense as her main narrative tense. It's been popular to do this, the last thirty years or so, to impart a sense of vividness and immediacy. I've always been suspicious of the device because I've always loved the richness of time relationships language offers us. How wonderful, for example, that the present perfect allows for us to be in a present state as a result of a past action (I have arrived~I came here and am here now). But in this book, the present tense for narrative really doesn't work. It's not just a matter of making the narrative feel one-dimensional, lacking time relationships. There are many sentences structured something like "A few days after the funeral, she is walking down the street..." This may not look too bad out of context, but the first part is past tense solidly, and the present tense right after can only be unnatural. I don't have examples from the text, but there were many that were jarring indeed.
Some of these jarring instances, however, were created by what's probably the biggest how to of the book for me, which is that Karr reflects as a present time writer on the narrative of her past and inserts these reflections into the narrative. Present time writer and past time experiencer really requires past tense narrative. However, these reflections are probably the most special thing in the book, especially when she gives glimpses of the process of writing the book: not wanting to spend too much time on an episode, wishing a character had signed off on her version of events, choosing a pseudonym or pseudonymous location for an event. These reflections show that the author has her reader in mind and understands what a reader might want to know about, but also is aware of herself both as writer and experiencer--her privacy and the ways in which she wishes to present information are part of the relevant material.
I haven't read Karr's two earlier memoirs--and what's up with THREE memoirs?? But I was at a disadvantage for it. In at least one place, Karr summarizes material from an earlier memoir, but even apart from that there were enough untied ends that it was clear that material presented elsewhere was being assumed. Editorial and present tense problems aside, this may be the biggest problem with the memoir: it doesn't stand alone. But calling this a problem may be simply a matter of perspective. What single work of any writer stands alone? I still wish there weren't so many untied ends, though. 
Their presence prevents me from knowing whether a lack I see in the storytelling would be solved by supplying it from an earlier memoir or if it really is missing. The problem is this: The memoir is dealing with Karr's finding sobriety after years of drunkenness and depression--specifically sobriety via Alcoholics Anonymous, with a kicking-and-screaming arrival at trust in a Higher Power which finally leads her to Catholicism. Now, the book contains plenty about the wretchedness of being a desperate addicted alcoholic trying to claw her way out of an unbearable life situation, but precious little depiction of the earlier phase where drinking alcohol provides a high, exhilaration, a sense of invincibility. Even the younger Mary is at best verklempt. And yet the exhilaration and fun and adventure is referred to as something lost. Except that alcoholism runs in her family and she has pain to get away from, I just didn't feel like I got to know enough about why she became dependent on alcohol in the first place.
If I were to be writing about agreeing to take meds to control bipolar mania, I would want to talk about how mania was making life unmanageable and leading to ever deepening depressions for sure, but I would also want to talk about the experience of the manic high and why it is so hard to give up.  
One last comment, which sort of fits under the information not disclosed rubric: Karr sure makes an awful lot of comments about weight and thinness. She even lists thinness as the number one reason for why she's not the most suffering of afflicted people--ahead of being white, intelligent, HIV-negative... She mentions her own weight going up and mostly down, repeatedly, and depicts herself denying herself food and forcing herself to exercise. The anorectic in the mental hospital is the only one referred to as beautiful, consistently.  So what next? A memoir about her eating disorder? Not meaning to be mean...but it seems like there's something there and she's playing it coy.
And now I'm going away to think more about why this was such a quick and easy and even compelling read for me, even though aspects of the crafting drove me crazy and I didn't especially care about the character. If I could figure that out, I'd really know something about the intangibles of good writing. Answers in the comments, please! (As well as please tell me what to do about the 13,907 comments waiting for me here, all of them likely spam save maybe a half dozen?!)

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

I love you


This time, two weeks since I posted. And the 4,395 tally for my comments folder is beyond my ken or forbearance. The real comments from real people are so precious I can't just delete everything, but that's some golden needles in an enormous haybarn.

Okay, start again. Welcome to my space! I'm so glad you stopped by. I love you.

What a wild and freewheeling time this is. On a genuinely hot day recently, I stood at a high window, enjoying the warmth, puzzled by a brownian dusting of snowflakes, where were they coming from, what were they portending (harbinging?). I stared for a while and eventually recognized they were seeds. Dandelion and other wind-borne seeds, lifting and dipping like the sparrow flight I keep coming back to in my writing.

Even the sparrow makes a difference when it falls.
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I think it's a sparrow. What's fascinating to me is that when I first found it, splayed almost symmetrically between the two apple trees in the lush greenhouse here, I thought perhaps it had been laid there as a sacred act (also known as sacrifice). I thought it looked iridescent, the bluish under-feathers gleaming against the dun.

WARNING: If you are squeamish or easily grossed out, please scroll fast past the next picture. I'm sharing it to share my point that everything is beautiful and that life breeds life, spirit continues.
Come to find out, as I did with my bare left hand, approaching the corpse as gently as if to nudge a sleeper awake, this bird had been lying between the two trees for some time. As luminous as the feathers up top had appeared to me, in some sort of meta way, the underside was a teeming of a different ordering of ensoulment.
Scroll past if you're squeamish, and I'll leave space between, but please hear me on this, with William Blake:
EVERYTHING THAT LIVES IS HOLY.








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EVERYTHING THAT LIVES IS HOLY

One of the key pieces I'm working on for my thesis centers on Bede's allegory of a sparrow flying through a hall from the darkness before and back into darkness beyond, representing a human lifespan. Isn't it ironic, or bizarre, or freaky, or encouraging, or worrying, that I have just reconstructed a version of this allegory where the sparrow flies into a greenhouse, flies through, and finds no open end at the far side, slams into it, and falls down to become an offering to a pair of apple trees wed for life by their pollen, to become a nurse for life forms about whom we know so little but who have such vigor. Air to earth. And into the ground.

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Yes. Rest there. But you'll be so busy, you soon won't remember the bird part of you that's doing the resting--the rest of you, the new, teeming part, will be so busy. The rest will take care of themselves. And your sweet dreamy rest will take care of itself.

Odd, too, that I'm so totally unsqueamish, especially considering that I'm about the last person you'd want around in an emergency. But when it's 'gross' stuff (except vomit), I'm your girl. One year in college, there was an outbreak of horribly wounded hedgehogs, still alive but actively being taken over, evidently had been side-sliced by a weed-whacker or something. Neighbors would come find me if they found one and ask me to deal with it because they just couldn't. I stockpiled small boxes and walked many poor hedgehogs to the vet to be euthanized, having done what I could for them first.

If everything that lives is holy, and everything that exists metamorphoses...I can lie on my back in the middle of the driveway and listen to stacked layers of birdsong and feel the crosshairs of the universe shift away from me awhile. Feels good.

Ooh--my final challenge just as I write this: I can hear a rodent gnawing in my room, very close to me! I can't find it--I have no sense of directional hearing so I can't tell where it is. Let's keep that unsqueamish face on...